Holy crap, those are terrible stories. I'm really sorry that ableist jerks keep popping out of the woodwork like that
Sadly, I have one too -
A friend of mine, who has bipolar disorder, and has been to the hospital for it a few times (voluntarily for the stays in the mental health ward) in the last 12 months started dating a guy. She filled him on this, he accepted it. Great, right? Except he keeps making jokes about people (at his work, not her) acting like they're "ready for the rubber room" or that he feels like he should "bust out the straitjacket" when he deals with them. My friend is usually really quiet and not very assertive, but she did tell him in explicit, excruciating detail just exactly what being confined to the modern equivalent of a padded room was. He was horrified, and to the best of my knowledge has STFU with his stupid "jokes" since then. When I found out, I was simultaneously pissed off at him, sorry she had to deal with that, and SO PROUD of her.