Wow, I definitely haven't dealt with what you have dealt with.
Gods, I don't blame you for mistrusting doctors after your experience.
Gods, Adelene, and here I was thinking I was the only one on the boards to have suffered from psychiatric medical abuse. :S
I really wasn't intending for this thread to focus on that. It's just the angle that I'm coming at the issue from. And really, other than the two issues I mentioned, I've come out of it okay - I'm very resilient, apparently, which certainly doesn't make what happened any less abusive, but it does make it easier for me to get on with my life now that it's over. The biggest effects it's had on my life are to make me rather wary (since I'm very aware that people don't have to be malicious to be dangerous) and quite passionate about youth rights and ableism.
As for the doctor thing, I think it is perfectly reasonable for you to come to a health care practitioner with a specific expectation for care, and the right to ask for that type of care, as long as it's reasonable.
Hm. I was thinking more along the lines of "If I decline a form of treatment - especially drugs - do not push, at all. If I say no the first time, do not
ask me a second time. If I change my mind, I
will tell you
- and it's reasonably likely that I will change my mind after doing some research, if the thing that you're trying to treat is serious or problematic. If you push a prescription on me, that prescription will not be filled, and that will probably be the last time you see me." and perhaps "Do not touch me without having received explicit permission to do so, for each instance of touching me. 'I'm going to do X now' is not an acceptable request for permission to touch me. Mistakes in this area are acceptable, but if it's regularly disregarded, I will be finding a different doctor." (The former issue has already been an issue. I wound up having a panic attack in the doctor's office last time I had a checkup - and it was the last time I had a checkup because I've been too nervous to try again since - over fucking allergy pills
Other than the fact that I expect to be a little bit trigger-happy about refusing treatment, I don't think I'll have much problem taking a doctor's advice about types of treatment. (Checking stuff out on WebMD before going along with it is normal, right?)
Especially since you identify as being on the autism spectrum, I think it would be expected that you would want a practitioner who would understand and accommodate your particular needs.
...I just contemplated disclosing my neurotype to a doctor in RL... I'm going to go gibber in the corner for a while, now. (Not really, but yeah... that's not goona happen.)
Fortunately, I pass well enough as a shy neurotypical that I can generally get away with not doing that. Even more luckily, my medical records were misplaced by my next-to-last doctor, so any new doctor will only know about that part of my history if I tell them.
I would read up on both, and see how you feel about going to see a practitioner for a base line physical exam with a blood sugar test and a full thyroid panel. Then, if you ever start showing any symptoms of either condition (depression would be one for hypothyroidism, unfortunately) you can get follow up blood work done, and see how you're doing. Both diabetes and thyroid problems can be managed easily in many cases without a lot of practitioner contact. You can even get a glucometer (a blood sugar testing machine) and test your blood sugar at home.
My friend Three suggested that I could have lab work done without seeing a GP at all, and just have the results sent to me. (I don't have health insurance, so referrals aren't an issue.) That seems like a safe first step, but I still need to figure out how I'm going to handle it if something comes back bad on them.
Regarding depression, I decided a while back that I'm simply not going to see a psych doctor ever again, unless I'm literally physically forced to do so. If I get depressed, looking for medical causes is fine, but if that doesn't pan out, I'm just going to be depressed. Fortunately I don't seem prone to depression except situationaly, and that clears up quickly when I get myself out of the problematic situation.
Regarding medical abuse specifically, it sometimes helps me to place more of the blame on the doctors, rather than my parents. Your mother took the medical advice of a professional, and that advice turned out to be utter shit, but your mother never noticed and probably never will because she's one of those people who just trusts professionals that much, or the beliefs they instilled in her about you are just so ingrained by this point, or whatever the case may be. Thinking like that has helped me at least feel a little less betrayed by my parents (although there's certainly plenty else that they and they alone are responsible for) and made me feel just that eensy, eensy bit safer around them. (Which still isn't saying much, but eh.)
That's pretty much where I am with her, actually. She definitely believes that professionals are just about infallible. (It doesn't help that she was raised to be very submissive.) 'Never noticed' doesn't fly, with as much noise as I was making about the problems, though - she knew, and chose to trust the professionals over me, even about the state of my own mind, and that's deeply, deeply wrong. It actually parallels (trig: rape)
ignoring someone who's saying 'no' to sex on the grounds that they'll enjoy the experience.
(By the way, considering forced drugging to be as bad as rape or a type of rape is actually pretty common among people who've experienced it. There are a ridiculous number of parallels between them.)