Holy shit, how did this entire discussion happen when I wasn't looking?
Umm... There's a lot of points from this discussion that I think need addressing. A *lot*. But one stands out to me over the others:
This is why I did not want to have this discussion. I have prepared my posts with care every time and all I get back is labels and some pretty insulting one's at that. I am done. Take care.This is not okay.
We're calling you out on your unaddressed privilege. It wouldn't be reasonable for us to expect you to get everything right on the first try. But it's entirely reasonable for us to expect you to listen. This isn't a conversation that trans people have the privilege of not
having, so if you want to be any kind of an ally at all, it's not one that you get to not have either. I've just been reading and re-reading your posts, trying to find some way to give you the benefit of the doubt, but you haven't left a lot of room for doubt: if you're willing write off the things the rest of us have said as "insulting labels", it's clear you haven't been listening in good faith.
"biological essentialism"? "transphobia"? These are labels, yes. When used to describe the things you've said in this thread, they are accurate
I think you should spend a long time re-reading what we've said, but this time to understand it, not to refute or defend against it.