I know this is coming really late, but I just wanted to apologize.
Frankly, seeing someone misgender someone else, no matter how much sexism they exhibit, feels like a punch in the gut.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that from me.
The best I could do was make the comparison between holding trans people to a high standard the same way people would expect all black people to be sassy and wise like in the movies.
I'm also sorry for this. I just know that every group has its unique set of problems and that it's usually not wise to compare them, so I thought I should apologize for this as well.
It's the educate me 101 section, so I (tried not to) take anything here personally. I aso have a pretty tough skin (I'm the sort of person who reads transphobic comment threads on the internet to relieve stress sometimes <_<)
But it's nice when people learn stuff
If you (or anyone else) has any other questions about *whispers* trans stuff
*gasp* then feel free to ask! Either here or in a PM (of course I don't represent all trans people, standard disclaimer!)! And I (or other awesome people!) may or may not answer <_<