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I was at a residents' meeting at my rotation site. One of the residents is a real douchebag. The assistant director of med ed (DME) was saying how the interns on call can't refuse to go to the mental health center if they are called to do a medical assessment. (This is not an in-hospital setting, but it is residential for acute mental crises). The douchebag resident started a comment, saying "Well, we know these people are CRAZY, and if they say they have chest pain..." and one of the other residents cut him off immediately, and gave him a real dressing down over it. He not only said that people with mental illness (not to infantalize the elderly or people with mental illness, but these were the examples he used) often have legitimate health problems, but that people who have less of a voice, including children, the elderly, and people with mental illness, need special advocacy for their health issues. Douche bag was also taken down for using terms like "retard" and "crazy" in the meeting, told they were not professional terms, and for calling people by their diagnosis "a schizophrenic" instead of "a person with schizophrenia."

I was actually pretty pleased with the reaction to him, since it seems like he gets away with such awful behavior most of the time. And, this was in front of most of the residents and the DME and assistant DME. The assistant DME was actually one of the people to call him out on one of the issues.

That is so cool. I was all prepared to be angry and upset, but this story turned out well. Yay Other Resident!

Seen at the end of a guy's dating profile on Plenty of Fish:



Thanks, guy.

... Wow. I actually had to look up that phrase he used. Ugggghhhhh.

How kind of him, to save you the time of considering sending him a message!

What does that phrase mean, then? I'm almost afraid to find out. :C

http://www.phrases.org.uk/meanings/go-pound-sand.html

Charming.

Oh, that's not so bad. I thought it might be something vulgar.

I thought about sending him a message letting him know how offensive he's being to crazy people, but I decided it wouldn't do any good.

This is probably the best place to put the following rant.

Thursday we had group/self evaluations for the group project groups so far [basically, how I think they're doing so far, what they can improve going forward, etc etc] and most of mine were really awesome, and I really liked that self-esteem boost. And then we got to the last one.

"What things could this person improve going forward?:

You need to be more flexible with meeting places despite your physical limitations."

Erm, what? I know what it's tied directly too, as well. We were supposed to meet Thursday between classes, which is an hour break. They wanted to meet in the library, and I emailed the group saying:



So I gave a legitimate reason as well as two completely appropriate alternate meeting places, and I'm told that I'm being "inflexible."

Right. Let me just drop the cane and skip across campus, you asshole.

And this is a group of self-selected supposed feminists. Yeah. Lovely. I have no idea what to do. One of the faculty was there when I got the sheet and I just totally froze. I mean, what was I supposed to do, get all snarky on her in front of the entire group? I know I should probably talk to the faculty but I'm so terrified of being seen as "that whiner" [even though I know I'm not, and that I'm legally protected because of my disabilities] that I can't make myself.

What a shit-sucking, whiny, insensitive, entitled douchecanoe of a reviewer! I am so sorry you had to deal with that. I mean really, what the fuck was she thinking, "Well Kaie's at school, so clearly she has SUPERPOWERS and could LEVITATE to the library if she felt like it"?

I don't know what your school has in the way of disability support services, or how far professors are required to go to accommodate students (including preventing/rectifying hostile learning environments), but if this review is something the faculty will read, I hope they recognize the inappropriateness of what your group member said. Does your school's disability services have student advocates, or anyone who could contact your faculty member in an official capacity for you to point out the discriminatory and hurtful nature of the incident? Even if the faculty is the kind (and I hope they're not) to see a direct complaint as "whiny", getting it through official channels may serve to demonstrate the serious (and thus not-whiny) nature of the complaint. This is one of the reasons I've recommended to my students with health issues that they talk to DSS at our school - our jackass profs may blow off an individual student's request for accommodation/support, but they have to comply when DSS tells them what adaptations are needed. I hope that doesn't come across as TAB-splainin' - I was going off of what I've learned by working as faculty at another university. If it does, I apologize - I don't know if you've already explored those options.

Again, I'm so sorry this happened, and so angry. *Hugs* if you want them.