I can't be the one to lock the thread, as it involves me. That would be abuse of mod privileges and I am against it, so should it get out of hand and anyone wishes to appeal to a mod I ask you to pick another mod. I shall also endeavor not to flame or insult or disrespect the right of people to have an opinion, however much I might disagree with said opinion.
Ok here it goes:
I am disturbed by what I feel is implied. I feel that from you last post where you ask me if I thought you were less of a woman because of a penis, that it is implied that things such as menstruation, pregnancy, uterine and cervical problems and problems with the ovaries that can arise, don't matter all that much in recognizing anyone as female. To me these are the only experiences that make me feel actually female. These are experiences that by definition a trans-women can't have (yet). The other stuff that always reminds me I am female is the conditioning with which I have been broad up. Though anyone who has been broad up as male from birth will have the same conditioning, they will however not be the target of it. And by "it" I mean the constant reminder that you are somehow less worthy because you are not male.
I am also a little disturbed that "cis-gendered" people, as you call us, are killing, raping and firing trans-people. I know that trans-people are in danger of becoming the target of a hate-crime every day of their lives and I absolutely think that is despicable. The situation of living in fear is however not unfamiliar to people who were assigned female at birth. It is not known as a hate-crime, though it should be, but fab women are at risk of rape, murder and being fired for being women as well. So I would like to know in what way fab women are privileged over trans-people in that way?
Also the perpetrators of these crimes are largely men assigned male at birth. Though it wouldn't surprise me if there are also female perpetrators, because bigotry is frequently internalized by a lot of people who are also the target of it. Our enemies and the dangers and discrimination we live with seem to be the same, though I do know that I am privileged over women of color, women with a handicap, queer women etc. It may also be possible that as an fab I am privileged over trans-women. I am not sure about this. As a white woman the chances of that are high.
Also this is beginning to sound like the oppression Olympics as in "who has it worst", which doesn't matter because no bigotry is acceptable; so I am continuing on to another train of thought.
To be trully free and to take away a major tool of the patriarchy I do believe we need to abolish gender. Gender is a binary system that served no purpose other than to judge and control and exclude people. Sex is the proper term to refer to certain physical characteristics and that people have decided to misuse it as to represent certain acts between people does not mean the word isn't accurate. There are many worst that have more than one meaning and I don't see the other meaning of the word "sex" a reason to stop using it for what it was originally intended.
Gender is used to dictate what people may and may not do, wear; how people may or may not walk, talk, behave, etc. I find the whole concept oppressive. And being able to choose one out of two options really isn't much of a choice at all. It means you either choose one set of characteristics or another. You may not choose from both columns and why should there be only two columns to begin with?