Holy shit, this thing is dusty

2013 January 12
by Harriet Jay

Hello, internets!

It’s true, I am alive.

Before I get your hopes get up, I’m not restarting the blog. I never gave it a proper ending, is all, and that wasn’t how I meant to end things. But life got in the way, and then it was SO NICE to not be blogging and the comments and the emails and ugh (your comments and emails are really nice! it’s just, you know, work still), and interacting with the feminist blogosphere without being a part of it is also pretty keen, I found.

I have a little window of time right now, and I think it would be good if I used that time to finish this thing up. That’s not happening tonight! Because tonight I’m actually pretty deep into a box of wine. But hello, this will be happening, okay?

Quick summary on the life of Harriet J:

  • Totally alive and happy and doing good.
  • Going to grad school!
  • Still with the bear. We had a rough time and now it’s a good time again.
  • Got sociable in real-life instead of internet-life. That’s a thing.
  • Dove nose-deep into a lot of different kinds of blogs and learned about a lot of different stuff, all begun by my friend Robin smashing up my rather easy, superficial thoughts on sex work. Guys, sex work blogs, go get some, you don’t even know what a shitheel you are yet.
  • Been writing a bit on the fiction side of things, which is much harder and is full of rejection notices and somehow nobody recognizes my brilliance and I don’t trip and end up in the New York Times. Kidding, kidding, I like that better — the popularity thing is scary, I did not care for it and absolutely was never prepared.
  • TOTALLY EMBARRASSED by a lot of stuff I put on this blog.
  • TOTALLY IMPRESSED by a lot of stuff I put on this blog.

At least one more post coming! I would like to write a post on my new thoughts on sex work, and a post on what the hell it was like doing this blog, because that was a THING. I promise nothing. My only obligation is to this box of wine, and I take my vows very srsly.

9 Responses
  1. January 12, 2013

    Hurrah! Lovely to hear from you, and many thanks for your update. (Note to self: stop worrying vaguely and totally ineffectively about Harriet of Fugitivus fame.)

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  2. January 12, 2013

    So very happy to hear from you, that you are doing well, sad that you don’t plan to keep blogging, but I don’t blame you. You are one of my favorite writers.

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  3. chi permalink
    January 12, 2013

    I was really happy to see you pop up in my reader!

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  4. January 12, 2013

    What cheshire said.

    Also, Happy New Year(s)!

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  5. Amianym permalink
    January 13, 2013

    I hope I can give you a moment of warm fuzzies about what a positive influence you were on the internet, as you get ready to rest the blog for good. Your writing has been tremendously helpful for my healing, but aside from that, you’re how I met my fabulous girlfriend! We met through your discussion forum two years ago. We’re painfully long-distance, but we’ve visited twice, and we love each other tons and tons. Thank you for bringing us together, no matter how small you feel your role may be.

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  6. Rachel permalink
    January 13, 2013

    <3 <3 <3 <3 <3
    So glad you're here. Adding my voice to the many who can say: Goddamn, did you ever change my world for the better. Force for good. When I'm scared to write, I remember what you wrote and I sit down and fucking write. Thank you. Hi.

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  7. January 14, 2013

    Oh, I’m so glad to see that you’re doing well, and growing, but of course I’ll miss your writing.

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  8. Scheherezade permalink
    January 20, 2013

    I had almost given up checking. I can’t tell you how good it is to know that you are well and happy.

    One of the strange things about a site like this is that people feel like they know you – and maybe they do, in a sense, because you are a talented writer and your readers engage hard with what you write, but it’s a difficult relationship to have with people you’ve never met. And maybe it’s tougher here because you are tackling subjects that aren’t often openly discussed, not only because of the silencing imposed on them, but because it’s so difficult to articulate the feelings around trauma. And I know that I’m not the only one who wishes that I could sit down with you over a coffee and talk about solutions to The World. But short of that (!), I wish you the very best of luck, with your studies, and everything else.

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  9. January 20, 2013

    Glad to hear everything’s well on your end. I’ve referenced this blog a lot, largely when discussing rape jokes and victim-blaming, so I’m glad you’re keeping it up and around.

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